Thursday, August 18, 2011

Online Dating Question, Answered: Is Your Ideal Match Too Good For You?

All of us have had crushes who we think are out of league. Remember those god-like, ideal creatures we crushed on in high school or college? Well, of course now that we're older, we still have crushes. And they move to those out-of-reach, Olympus-dwelling creatures with their impressive physiques and even more impressive careers and their knowledge about classic music, and etc etc. But you mustn't think that they are unreachable, because everyone can have the chance to be with their ideal match.

There's always that thought, "What if I just went for it?" And you know what they say, there's no other question as haunting as the "what-if's."

So instead of dwelling in the "what-ifs," why not do something about it?

You may or may not have noticed that throughout this article, "talking through mobile phone" has been emphasized. Ever wonder why? It's because you must never give your home telephone number to anyone you've met online before you've had the chance to get to know them more. It's better to be cautious and to keep privacy and security in mind. Thus, it would be more advisable for you to give them your mobile phone number and not your home telephone number.

The first thing that you can do is to open your eyes, and not look at your crush through rose-colored glasses. This "perfect" ideal match of yours probably has lots of flaws that you are just too blindly infatuated to see. Remember that nobody is perfect. Your crush before wasn't perfect, and your crush right now is definitely not perfect either. The perfect person doesn't exist in reality, only in our minds.

We have to realize that while the perfect person does not exist, love can make the imperfect person seem perfect. Love is one of the most powerful things in this world, and it can make an imperfect person perfect for us. Remember that you've got things going for you too! Never think that "someone like you" doesn't deserve to be with "someone like them." That mentality is not good. You're a great person. You just need to remind yourself of that fact. No one is "too good" for you, because if you feel that you are the best, then you deserve the best too. But don't take this as a right to "boast" about yourself. Just remind yourself of the great things that you have that attract other people. For example, we have a physical quality that we think is our best, like our almond eyes, or straight nose, or pouty lips, etc. Enhance that so you'd feel more confident about yourself. Look for a quality about yourself that you feel is attractive. Like a good sense of humor, a logical and stable mind, the ability to tell Chopin and Mozart apart, etc.

Like what we said earlier, your ideal match is, after all, human, and has flaws that you may just be too infatuated to notice or delve in more. Truth is, your crush is looking for someone who would accept them for who they are, flaws and all. And if you can truly accept them, then you might be who they are looking for. You might be surprised at how the odds would work out FOR you, and not against you.


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