Monday, October 31, 2011

Non-sexual Things You Can Do To Break the Ice.

Stumbling upon this eHow write-up on how to give a massage, it brought us to mind of all the nice things you can do for your romantic interest that aren't necessarily sexual. There's a lot of concern over safe-sex in the dating stages of relationships, after all, but what nobody thinks of is the nice, even sensual, things you can do for each other that aren't sex, but still make them feel good.

A few more suggestions to consider:

Speaking of massage, how about a head rub, back rub, or foot massage? These are simple, informal little things you can do, in public or in private. Remember that humans, being a primate, bond through any pleasant physical contact, not just sex or foreplay.

A playful tickle. Perhaps even some playful wrestling, if you and your partner know your strength enough not to hurt each other. Some find this arousing, while others just consider it good childish fun.

Crack your partner's back, or help with their exercises, or other borderline therapeutic aids. You may scoff at this - if so you've never had your back cracked by somebody who knows what they're doing.

Hey, and don't forget a good old-fashioned hug! In fact, we could stand to have a more liberal-hugging society all around. At least some of us would benefit if at least once per day a perfect stranger hugged us.

View the Original article

Tuesday, October 25, 2011

Chinese Dating: Common Threads in the Community Fabric

There are no hard and fast rules for Chinese dating. As with any other culture, dating within the Chinese community is, and should be, about getting to know a person, learning about what makes them a special and unique, and developing a meaningful relationship.

While not everyone from China shares the same beliefs, there are still common threads that run throughout the fabric of the community, particularly regarding attitudes about dating. The traditions of honor and respect are the cornerstone of the Chinese culture. As such, they figure prominently within every aspect of life including the dating arena.

Chinese culture is very family-oriented. Therefore a person's family plays a very significant role in his or her dating life. Unlike the individualistic dating culture of the West, a Chinese family expects to observe and give input throughout the dating process. They also expect that their thoughts and opinions will be respected and acted upon.

Parents may prefer that their child date someone who is already acquainted with the family and whose family or background is well known. They may, specifically, want their daughters to marry older, more established men who have financial stability and who can provide a more stable home environment.

In traditional Chinese culture, going against one's family's wishes is extremely difficult and, therefore, rarely done. Even someone who is an independent thinker in every other aspect of his or her life may still defer to parental wishes when it comes to whom to date or marry. This is because it is often viewed that dating or marrying the wrong person could bring disgrace or reflect poorly upon the family as a whole. Honoring the wishes of one's parents is respectful.

While particular values feature prominently in Chinese culture, what matters to each person will be different depending on how deep an individual's cultural roots go and what their personal beliefs are.

Visit us at :

Monday, October 24, 2011

Rules Of The Game In Online Chinese Dating

One nice thing about a five-thousand year old culture is that there are rules. Many of the men on the online Chinese dating site I belong to - and I'm assuming all of the women - already know the basic Chinese dating rules. But some of the guys may not. I had no idea about what follows when I first arrived in China from America. Instead I assumed that the dating scenarios of our two countries were roughly the same. Boy was I wrong! Given how fundamental these rules are for the endeavor you are embarked upon, it is worth at least one article to make explicit some basic information you need to know going in, since ignorance in this area not only wastes your time but puts you at a competitive disadvantage.

So here it is. When it comes to dating Chinese women, the first (and some would argue the only) rule you need to be aware of is this: Chinese women are expected to marry before exiting their late twenties. Just as there is no parallel in American culture to the obligation the Chinese child feels for taking care of the elderly parent, so there exists nothing remotely close in American dating and marriage culture to the pressure these Chinese women feel with regard to not entering their thirties as unmarried. If you want to get some idea of the sort of stresses we are talking about, think about the forces that brought about the earthquake in Japan, and multiply it by ten. Few Chinese women make it into their thirties unmarried, and those that do soon risk attaining Elephant-man type status.

This married-by-thirty rule serves as a sort of Continental Divide, shaping the dating landscape on either side of it. The practical implications for dating Chinese women are that the women in their early twenties who are on the site are far less likely to be seriously engaged in the process. It is with the mid-to-late twenties that marriage fever breaks out among Chinese women, and the website is replete with beautiful Chinese women in this age group seeking a life partner. The good news is that by virtue of being on an international dating site, these women are at least open to the possibility of hooking up with foreign men. The bad news (at least for the commitment-phobic) is that by virtue of being Chinese women of a certain age, these women are dead serious about marriage (and the closer to 30, the more serious). Warning: Do not wade into this territory if you are looking for a short-term, good-time relationship. These women are going for the whole enchilada (or whatever the Chinese equivalent would be).

After reaching the magic (or, some would say, cursed) age of thirty, things change radically for a Chinese woman. As one correspondent recently put it to me: "it's really hard for women who are above 30 years old to find their Mr. Right, especially for Chinese women, just like me. Sometimes I feel dismal about this." This is also the age group in which the first divorcees will begin to make their appearance. Compared to the U.S. divorce is rare in China, but it is certainly on the rise, fueled by the tendency of Chinese men to acquire a mistress along with their first pay raise. More often than not, divorcees in this age group will likely have a young child at home.

Women over thirty and/or women who are divorced (especially those with young children) have an almost leper-like status in Chinese dating culture. The short-sightedness of Chinese men on this point is, however, great news for Western members of this the Chinese dating website. It means there are a lot of women who from a Western (or at least American) perspective seem desirable, even hot, given the phenomenon of the "cougar" i.e., the hot older women. These are amazing women who have defied cultural expectations. They are looking for someone who can truly appreciate them.

So that's an overview of how things stand. As they said in one of the Indiana Jones movies, "Choose wisely".

Philosopher, writer, university professor, recent China Peace Corps volunteer and blogger for, Peter Vernezze teaches just enough about Chinese culture to help you win the heart of a Chinese woman while online dating. You can find his blog at

Chinese Dating: Common Threads in the Community Fabric

There are no hard and fast rules for chinese dating . As with any other culture, dating within the Chinese community is, and should be, about getting to know a person, learning about what makes them a special and unique, and developing a meaningful relationship.

While not everyone from China shares the same beliefs, there are still common threads that run throughout the fabric of the community, particularly regarding attitudes about dating. The traditions of honor and respect are the cornerstone of the Chinese culture.  As such, they figure prominently within every aspect of life including the dating arena.

Chinese culture is very family-oriented. Therefore a person’s family plays a very significant role in his or her dating life. Unlike the individualistic dating culture of the West, a Chinese family expects to observe and give input throughout the dating process. They also expect that their thoughts and opinions will be respected and acted upon.

Parents may prefer that their child date someone who is already acquainted with the family and whose family or background is well known. They may, specifically, want their daughters to marry older, more established men who have financial stability and who can provide a more stable home environment.

In traditional Chinese culture, going against one’s family’s wishes is extremely difficult and, therefore, rarely done. Even someone who is an independent thinker in every other aspect of his or her life may still defer to parental wishes when it comes to whom to date or marry. This is because it is often viewed that dating or marrying the wrong person could bring disgrace or reflect poorly upon the family as a whole. Honoring the wishes of one’s parents is respectful.

While particular values feature prominently in Chinese culture, what matters to each person will be different depending on how deep an individual’s cultural roots go and what their personal beliefs are.

Sunday, October 23, 2011

India Tour- A Date with rich Cultural Heritage

India is a heritage hub. You can witness heritage in almost every corner of the country. From Kashmir to Kanyakumari, there is a wide stretch of rich cultural heritage like temples, monuments, forts, beaches, wildlife, fairs and festivals. Tourists and excursionists enjoy and cherish their visit to the unique heritage sites of India. We can make a bifurcation for easy understanding of the vast culture of India. The following aspects come forward in Indian tours. The Golden Triangle It is the most famous among foreign tourists. The triangle covers the three cities, which are extremely rich in heritage Delhi, Agra and Jaipur. The tour starts from the capital of the nation- Delhi. Old Delhi provides highly rich cultural heritage with the famous Jama Masjid, Red Fort and Chandni Chowk market. Chandni chowk market consists of a variety of sections like Kapda market (clothing market), parathe wali gali, ghadi bazaar (watch market) and Sikh gurudwara Sees Ganj Saheb, gauri shankar temple and Jain Temple. Then there are historical site like Qutb Palace, Humayun's complex, India Gate, and Birla temple. After a thorough tour of Delhi, the tourists move towards Agra. Agra is always known for Taj Mahal- one of the Seven Wonders of the World. After viewing Taj Mahal, the tourists also visit Agra Fort, bird sanctuary in Bharatpur and Fatehpur Sikri. Then they move towards the third corner of the triangle, Jaipur. Jaipur is known for the Forts and places. Jaipur is largest city of India and it is known as the Pink City. There are various Forts and monuments like Amber Fort, Hawa Mahal, Nahargarh Fort and Jantar Mantar. You can also experience a camel Safari in the deserts of Rajasthan. There is a famous ethnic village specially made for tourists called Chowki Dhani. Visit two all the three cities of India completes you tour to Golden triangle. Wildlife Tours India is always known as a paradise of wildlife and vegetation. Nature lovers are very fond of India wildlife tours, as they are able to observe a diverse Flora and Fauna in the National parks, wildlife sanctuaries and bird sanctuaries. Jim Corbett Nation Park, being the first National park in India, is the most renowned Tiger Reserve in India. National parks are found all over the India like Gir, Periyar, Bharatpur, Kanha and Bandhavgarh. There is a magnificent species of plants and animals in this nation. Tourists visit all round the year to see migrant birds, Lions, Tiger Safari, Leopards and other rare species. Additions India being a religious and secular nation is full of worship places like temples, Gurudwaras, Mosques, churches and monasteries. It can provide a lot of religious heat to the visitors. Even many tourists like to go on pilgrimage tours like Char Dham and Haridwar. In addition, there are many spices in India and tourists get an opportunity to munch on tasty spicy food there. Pani puri, chaat, tikka, and kabaabs being among the favorites. Vibrant colors are in tradition of India. You would see them in everything from cloths to markets. Tourists love the colorful presentation in dances and fairs.

Tour India , Visit India

Dating in Different Cultures


I was wondering through your research if you found a significant difference in people from different cultures when it comes to relationships? As in their values and the way they see how relationships should be. I'm particularly interested in people who have been in North America for a long time and grew up with the culture that their parents/grandparents came here with and any other relevant info would be appreciated.

Thanks for your time and expertise!


Actually, what I've found is that people all over the world in different cultures actually have the SAME values, wants, desires, needs - and go about getting them in very similar ways.

When I wrote my first book, "Being a Man in a Woman's World" I wasn't sure how it would translate in different parts of the world. What I discovered was that the principles apply regardless of where the reader lives or is from. We have readers in 72 different countries, and constantly get feedback from them about just how well the principles apply.
Honestly, I was rather surprised when I discovered this!

I will say however that while the foundations are the same and even the way people are wired are the same, we often use cultural bias as a way to reach our goals and this can differ. One of the best examples Ive come across is in the letters I receive from India. I suspect this is due to the impact of Bollywood however.

If you watch movies that come from the Indian entertainment industry, they are very flowery and symbolic. Likewise, many of the letters Im getting from men and women in this culture take an equally flowery and symbolic approach to love and relationships. This is especially challenging since these people want an equally symbolic way to handle their issues.

This, by the way is another important part of the puzzle. Our media have a lot to do with many of our biases; sometimes far more than we want to believe.

Best regards...
Have a love, dating, relationship, sex or man/woman question? You can write to me by going to: for answers. For more information about my books, "Being a Man in a Woman's Worldtm" (volumes I and II), and other products visit: Check out the discussion group at:

Copyright (c) 2007, Dr. Dennis W. Neder
All rights reserved.

Ethnic Dating Sites: Where Culture And Values Come Together

Some online dating websites are very general, and yet others target a specific culture with a specific set of values and beliefs. It is the second type of website that really makes an impact in the dating community, because it is much more likely to produce results. When someone is looking for particular values in a mate, it can be a tremendous asset to have a website dedicated to finding someone of your own ethnicity, values, and beliefs. That is the intrinsic value offered by Asian dating sites, Russian dating sites, and so on.

Now, that is not to say that these websites are restricted to a specific ethnic group. While that would be ideal for many people involved, it would also leave out a certain percentage of the population who enjoy the culture from afar. Plus, by restricting an online dating website to just a specific gender, you are limiting the profitability of a website, and could also face discrimination lawsuits. Most of the members who join these specific niche dating sites are looking for people of the same ethnic background, which is why this model works so well for the majority of people involved.

While certain ethnic groups may have a lot of similarities, there are people on there who may be looking for someone outside the norm. This is great if you are willing to accept that the chances of this happening are less than ideal. However, there is still a chance!

Ethnic websites range beyond what you see on the surface, and can delve into many characteristics other than just race. For example, Russians are very similar to many other Eastern Europeans, but certain aspects such as social and political beliefs could be radically different from neighboring countries. This is why it is important to join a dating website where you can find exactly what it is that you are looking for.

On the other hand you could have a group of people with mass appeal, who do not mind mingling and becoming romantically involved with someone of another ethnicity. For instance, it is not uncommon in Asian dating for Japanese and Chinese people to date and fall in love. It happens; and quite frequently! In addition, western men have a keen interest in meeting Russian women as well as Asian women.

Asian websites are often large, andhave many offshoots such as Filipinofriendfinder, Koreanfriendfinder, and others of that nature. These people may live all over the world, but still have similar cultural beliefs and values in many circumstances. The benefit on an Asian dating website or any other large ethnic group site is that it has a large pool of potential mates to choose from. You could easily find someone that has similar beliefs as yourself, and at the same time that same person could be just the unique individual that you were looking for.

Saturday, October 22, 2011

Filipina Dating in Western Culture - What Should You Consider When Going About It?

Lots of Filipino people have immigrated to western countries. These people have come in order to make money for themselves, and in the process they also enrich their adopted country. But these people are not just about work, as they like to play too. For this reason, there has been a growth in Filipina dating.

There are many different ways in which these people can seek out their prospective partners. One way is to participate in activities involving other Filipinos. There are lots of Filipino cultural organizations that promotes their culture, so there is no better way to know about other interesting Filipinos.

Filipinos have lots of differences, so these need to be considered before a couple goes out on a date. Their differences might be religious. One person, for example, might be Muslim, while another may be a Christian. Also significantly, there may be language variations. Some people know only Tagalog, their native language, while others are more comfortable with English or Spanish.

The Internet has become popular as a medium for people to get together. There is an explosion in online dating. The way that this is done is that each person creates a profile for himself or herself. After, they can browse the profiles of other members of the site and decide if the person is interesting enough to date.

In Filipina dating, there are many different places that a Filipino couple can go to on a date. If they are old-fashioned types and prefer to do something relating to their cultural background, they can go to a suitable restaurant or a Filipino festival. If their culture is not of much importance to them, they can go to a movie just like any other regular couple.

The old ways in which Filipinos met was through friends or family. These people would know both people and decide if they are compatible. But in recent times, many Filipinos prefer to find their partner on their own. Both methods are valid, and it comes down to personal preferences.

Filipina dating is becoming more popular as Filipinos try to meet other Filipinos for romantic purposes. There are lots of different approaches that the person might use, whether it be online dating or asking out a person that they already know. The only question is whether the people feel a connection with each other and whether they think it could lead to something great in the future.

Interracial Dating – How Do You Date Outside Your Culture Without Betraying Your Roots?

The public's outlook on socially and culturally sensitive issues such as interracial dating is changing with time. After the legalization of interracial marriages in 1967 to the current legalization of gay marriages, it is evident that, given time, society learns to accept change. Interracial dating and romance is more popular and is becoming well established throughout North American society. Interracial daters are generally contented with the knowledge that they can both maintain their own culture as well as learn another.

Learning a new culture doesn't make interracial couples feel like they are betraying their roots. In fact, more often than not, parents are the one who stress their children into not abandoning their culture by not dating interracially. However, when it comes to other people outside the relationship, most individuals are willing to accept interracial dating or multicultural dating. However, when it endangers their own customs and beliefs, those same individuals are against it. Many parents are concerned that interracial dating will somehow dilute their own culture and will threaten the preservation of their cultural beliefs. And to them, the only way to control the weakening of their cultural bonds is to restrict the actions of their children i.e. prevent them from dating interracially or outside of their culture. They feel that falling in love with someone of a different culture might make their children sacrifice their own traditions in order to make the relationship work.

Technically, it's not the place of the parents to make such decisions. Realistically, the parents have the power to decide as many children fear disapproval or even worse, isolation.

The best way for interracial couples to deal with their differences in culture is to compromise. It sometimes is the best way to bridge the gap between the varying ethnicities. Choosing the most important traditions from each culture, and including parents' opinions, will allow the partners and their parents to feel equally significant in the interracial relationship and the blending of cultures. Much as the parents may never be entirely happy with the choices their child has made, at least they won't feel like they are being stripped of their family roots.Couples from different cultural backgrounds usually aren't uptight about learning new customs and traditions. New partners may readily accept the challenge of engaging in the practices of different cultural groups.

Exposure to new customs doesn't mean one leaves their roots behind. Our cultures make us who we are, and that can never be taken away. And blending your culture and your interracial love's culture is what will make you who you are in your interracial union.

Dating in Black Culture

Dating in black culture used to start with meeting the girl, maybe in school or at the library. If you're older maybe you would meet someone at work or the grocery store. After that first meeting you would exchange phone numbers, talk on the phone a few times and set up that first date. You might go to the movies or a nice restaurant and you get to know the person you are dating. My how things have changed!

Today first contacts are not happening in grocery stores but in chatrooms. Talking on the phone is replaced by text messages and emails. First dates and meetings are happening months later after spending lots of time getting to know each other often from great distances and also through the virtual world of the internet. Welcome to dating in the black culture, the 21st century edition.

Every day more and more people are turning to the internet for their source of information but it is now becoming their source for romance and relationships as well. If you want to find that exotic black man who lives in Africa and is a world traveler, you can do it. If you want to find a southern bell, who is looking for a strong black man you can do it. The wonderful thing is you can do this all without ever leaving the comfort of your own home.
The most significant change in dating in the black culture is the number of people who are turning to online dating sites and social media platforms to meet the people of their dreams. Studies show that in 2000 there were approximately 360 million people using the internet. Today there are close to 1.6 billion internet users worldwide and close to 500 million of them are using social media sites and online dating sites to meet people.

That good black man or woman is just as likely to be hanging out on a black dating site as he is to be at the bank.

The black dating sites now give you the opportunity to approach those people who you may not have had previous access to. Executives, business owners, good hard working people are at your access all just a few strokes of your computer away. You get to approach people in a safe environment with no real fear of rejection. You also get to connect with like minded people so it is the ultimate weeding out process. No pressure, no expectations just the opportunity to meet literally millions of different people from all around the world.

We have progressed from face to face meetings to webinars. Instead of flying all over the world to meet a client we can set up video conferences to close same deal. Technology has changed our lives. The internet has affected the way we work, live, shop, and every aspect of life. It has affected everything we do and dating in the black culture has not escaped its grasp. Studies will have to determine if dating this way is better or worse but it sure does make it a whole lot easier to meet people.

Friday, October 21, 2011

Dating Outside of Cultural Boundaries

Ask any single people you know about how hard it is to meet members of the opposite sex and most of them will tell you I dont have the time! For a lot of singles, the bar scene is not an option and outside of traditional meeting places or the neighbor lady who fancies herself as something of a matchmaker, singles have few options, no matter what race, ethnicity, or sexual orientation. As a result, a wide range of online dating sites have sprung up on the Internet which cater to <a rel="nofollow" onclick="javascript:_gaq.push(['_trackPageview', '/outgoing/article_exit_link/718466']);" href="">Arab online dating</a>, Latino online dating, white online dating, black online dating, sites for <a rel="nofollow" onclick="javascript:_gaq.push(['_trackPageview', '/outgoing/article_exit_link/718466']);" href="">Muslim Singles</a>, Arab Christian singles, and other ethnic dating sites which cater to singles of specific faiths and ethnicities. Online dating literally opens a global opportunity for singles to seek out and find their soul mate. At the end of the day, no matter what language is spoken at home or which day of the week we gather to practice our faith, we all want the same thingsomeone to love and share our life with.
Attraction is a truly personal and profoundly elusive concept to describe to anyone else except in the broadest terms. Its a spark that begins with a glance or handshake that lingers just a half-beat longer than usual or a chance encounter that allows us to see a tiny glimpse of someones true self. In that moment, we just intrinsically know that person may be right for us. The heart wants what it wants. But what if that person is from a different ethnic group, practices a different faith, or challenges the traditional values of our friends and family?

Dating outside of cultural boundaries usually presents far more challenges for women than men. Women all over the world are all too familiar with this paradox. Even in todays society where traditional barriers of socially acceptable dating practices are dissolving, women still face enormous pressure to date men with similar backgrounds.

Cultural Challenges of Dating Outside Cultural Boundaries

Women who date men from other cultures often experience a wide range of obstacles and considerations, including:

Parental and Cultural Disapproval
Cultural Disapproval at Traditional Celebrations
Peer Pressure from Some Friends
Awkward and Uncomfortable Family Gatherings

Many women will tell you that those are the least of their concerns, especially those in some parts of the world who face risks that are far greater.

Personal Challenges of Dating Outside Cultural Boundaries

On a personal level, each woman who dates outside her cultures traditional boundaries must wrestle with challenges that are as unique as she is. She must ask herself a series of questions that address whether she is ready to:

Step Up and Embrace Her Individuality
Be a Catalyst for Change in Her Culture and Her Community
Defy Tradition to Be Happy and Lead a Fulfilling Life with This Man
Risk Strained Relationships with Some Friends and Family Members

There is no right answer to these and other questions. Like life itself, we make choices and then live with the consequences of those choices. No matter which choices we make and the associated consequences, the decision to live a happy life is always the best one. In lifes quiet moments when theres no one else around, there are no cultural barriers. There is only you and this other soul and the knowing smiles you share are all that matters.

Online Dating Etiquette - Do's and Don'ts

Have you decided to search for a date online? That is fine, but just as it is with normal dating, you must have online dating etiquette to succeed. This article will outline a set of practical dating etiquette that would ensure you get the best of your online dating experience. So let's get started.

One thing you must bear in mind is the importance of honesty from the very beginning. Your online dating profile must be free of lies and false stories. The problem with telling lies is that one lie will always lead to others, and with a chain of lies, it becomes difficult to remember what you have said in the past. When this happens, your lies can easily be spotted. So simply avoid this problem and the sub sequence lack of trust that follows by being honest from the very start.

Another important online dating etiquette is error-free writing. If you're like me, then not only do you hate to read badly written text, you also get a negative impression about the writer. So pay close attention to your spelling and grammar. Avoid the embarrassment of sounding immature or untidy. Granted, you do not have to write an award-winning piece of literature. But a well-written text could win you a date.
Do not write in all caps - that's like shouting. Avoid using abbreviated words and sentences in your written conversation except when it is obvious that your date is comfortable with it. Otherwise, they would have a hard time deciphering your text.

Nothing can put off singles as much as facing an "interview". So avoid asking a never-ending chain of questions. Let the questions flow naturally with the conversation. If during the conversation, they say something that can lead to a question, then ask them the question. Never forget that it is a conversation and as such you would have to provide some information about yourself as well. Just don't overdo it. You will get to know yourselves better with time.

Never give the impression that you are needy or desperate. Needy persons force themselves on others. And whatever acceptance they may get might only be temporary. So show some dignity, respect the wishes of the other party and move along nicely and without haste.

Finally, if you have met Mr. or Ms. Right, close your online dating account. Otherwise, you give the impression that you are still interested in others. This can create a lack of trust and it can put off your mate. You can simply avoid this by following this online dating etiquette.

Thursday, October 20, 2011

Online Dating Etiquette

So, are you really ready to take the online dating plunge? Sure, youve found a site that suits you, and have started posting your pictures and creating your photo profile, but do you really know how youre supposed to act? There are no real written rules in online dating, but success (and enjoyment) is based entirely on you. If you start with a negative attitude, treating people rudely along the way, odds are good you will receive the same (if not worse) in turn. Carrying yourself properly then is the key to a successful, and fun experience online.

Here then is some online dating etiquette.

Leave fear and self-consciousness behind

Feelings of fear and self-consciousness are normal whenever you put yourself up for judgement in new environments. However, if not kept in check these sentiments can mushroom into negative habits that will only hurt your chances for love later on. Always remember that you are not alone in your online dating adventure, and that every available single you encounter has at some point dealt with similar emotions. Embrace what you fear, and focus on being as optimistic and courteous as you can. Keep in mind that those who are most positive are usually those who are the most attractive.

Do on to others

The major rule of online dating etiquette is simple and as old as the bible itself. Essentially, you have to treat other singles with the same respect you yourself would like to receive. If every correspondence you have begins with this positive framework in place, youll help create a caring atmosphere where you may find both your perfect match and scores of online friends. Remember, even if youre not attracted to someone, there are no real wasted correspondences, as at worst, youve made a new friend.

Quality over quantity (being gregarious and fun)

It is a good idea to chat with as many people as possible when you start online dating, but try to keep the number of simultaneous chats to a minimum. Even though meeting a lot of new people at once increases your odds of finding a match, keep in mind that the quality of your interactions also goes a long way towards forging a strong and exciting relationship. Do what you can to be talkative, and try to avoid responding in monosyllabic, yes or no answers. You may be sizing up other singles, but remember, they are checking you out too!

Ask the right questions at the right time

Because chatting is the name of the game (and because people may not always be what their profiles claim) you cant be afraid to ask questions. Without them, in fact, youd be hard pressed to find out anything about more than superficialities. Still, its important to keep the feelings of other singles in mind. For example, it might not always be a good idea to ask personal questions the first time you chat with someone. Certain topics, specifically those relating to former partners or the deaths of loved ones, often need time and a level of trust before being comfortably broached. Use your best judgement, and remember to always apologize if a question offends or bothers someone.

Honesty is the only policy

If you cant say something nice, dont say anything at all

Instigating, mocking and insulting other singles is the easiest way to isolate yourself from the rest of the online dating community. No one likes a bully, and fittingly, acting this way can easily derail any ambitions you have to finding a perfect match. Put simply, if someone does not interest you, look elsewhere and keep your opinion to yourself.

Always stay friendly

If for whatever reason you fail to hit it off with another single, do what you can to keep relations friendly. If youre not interested, its always best to be upfront about your feelings. Explaining things simply and without negativity will always be appreciated, and it can help foster online friendships. Its also a classy touch to wish people good luck on their search. You may not have been his or her true love, but someone else just might.

Keep nudity and sexual talk to a minimum

Sure, sex is a big part of online dating. No one is denying that, and no one is asking you to hide your sexy side. However, there is a time and place for everything, and keeping sexual talk and imagery to subtle minimums is the classiest and most effective way to highlight your sensuality. Furthermore, overtly forward language and imagery may also open yourself up to those who do not have the best intentions in mind. Have fun, but be careful to pick your spots.

Anything can happen in the exciting world of online dating, but usually your own attitude and behaviour will set the tone for your experience. The Internet strips away a lot of inhibitions, but it should not take away your respect and manners. Remember to treat everyone the best you can, and undoubtedly your search for a perfect match will be a happy one.

Mitch Conway is the author of The Go-Getters Guide To Finding Your Soulmate, the first dating guide designed to help singles save time and become more proactive at meeting people. To find out more, visit

Online Dating Etiquette for Men

First, what is online dating etiquette? The dictionary definition of "etiquette" is "rules governing socially acceptable behavior." Based on this definition, online dating etiquette would be defined as "the rules governing socially acceptable behavior when communicating with members of dating websites."

It is really easy to be anonymous on a dating website. You are hidden behind a nickname, so no one really knows you. This makes it easy to behave however you please, without regard to etiquette. As a responsible person, however, you should try to make online dating a fun place to be by adopting good manners and conduct. Everyone will benefit from this behavior.

Here is some simple online dating etiquette for communicating with women.

1. Reply even when you are not interested. Should you reply to a woman if you are not interested? Unfortunately, people often just stay silent when they get a message from someone who does not interest them. They simply don't reply and ignore the message instead.

The right thing to do is to reply. Tell her politely that you do not think you're a good match and wish her good luck in her search. She will appreciate the reply, she will know you are not interested so she won't be wondering why you didn't reply, and she will be able to just move on.

2. Be careful when asking personal questions. Is it okay to ask personal questions when dating online? When you are first getting to know someone, you should avoid asking such personal questions as "Where do you work?" or "What is your last name?" or "What is your phone number?"

Wait a little before asking personal questions. There is no specific amount of message exchanges or days you should wait. It all depends on the interaction you have with her and how she feels about giving out personal information.

When starting to communicate with her, you should work on creating between the two of you a sense of trust and an attraction. If you ask for personal information too soon, she might get suspicious or turned off.

3. Be honest. Do not lie at any time when creating your profile or communicating with women on the Internet. Don't lie about your age, your body type, or anything else. In the end, it will just hurt you when she finds out about your lies and you end up having to justify them. That's a situation you don't want to get yourself into. Remember that no one likes to deal with liar.

4. Hold off on talking about sex. Wait before talking with her about sex unless she brings up the subject first. Don't use sex to try to attract her. You will just be wasting your time. Work at making a good connection with her first, by talking about things she likes or things you have in common.

5. Emailing twice only if you must. If you email a woman for the first time and she does not reply, you may want to wait at least a week before sending a second message. Women get overwhelmed by the amount of admirers' messages in their in-boxes. She might have deleted your message by mistake, she might not have paid attention to it, or she might not have been interested.

It is okay to email a second time just to make sure, but wait at least a week. You don't want to be pushy.

Online dating etiquette is about good manners and good behavior when communicating with other website members. Following good etiquette will make dating websites a better place to be, and everyone can win from it.

What is Online Dating Etiquette?

Have you ever wondered about Online Dating Etiquette? If so, read on to find more about these small but important rules that can make a big impact on your online dating success.

Honesty is the first rule of online dating etiquette. Be sure to tell the truth at all stages of online dating. If you are using a photo that is a few years old and you lie about your age or weight it is not going to help you in the long run. If you are uncomfortable sharing information you should refrain from putting anything at all. You should remember that people will want to know who you are and possibly your age and you should be prepared for this.

You may be tempted to use some of the flirt icons that are available on most dating sites, but a personal memo to someone can show interest and make you stand apart from the rest. You'll be able to understand people more quickly and decide whether or not you want to get to know them better.

When you start having conversations with others remember to strike a balance. Tell people about yourself, but try not to make the conversation only about you. Be sure to ask questions about the other person, but not too many. You will quickly get to know each person you are communicating with and you will be able to cater your conversation towards this person's personality.

Make sure that you are using some sort of spell check so that the conversations you are having represent you fully. A lot of people can struggle with spelling and occasionally this can put people off. By doing a quick spell check you can make sure that this is not an issue.

There are many other rules to online dating etiquette that may apply to your situation and you need to make sure that you are practicing caution when you are in the beginning stages of meeting someone. Online dating is very popular and this is how many people are meeting their soul mate.

Wednesday, October 19, 2011

Online Dating Etiquette - Two Huge Tips

Don't know how to meet women online?

Worried she'll laugh at you?

The truth is most guys will never know online dating etiquette.

Not because it's impossible.

But because they perform online dating etiquette the WRONG WAY.

So if you have trouble with online dating etiquette.

Pay attention to these 2 Huge Tips

Online Dating Etiquette Tip 1 - Be Respectful

Women online always talk about how some sleazy guy kept telling them dirty things online. Do yourself a favor don't be one of those idiots.

I know it's easy to talk to women online but it doesn't give you the right to disrespect women. Be flirty with women but not dirty, here's an example.

When I first started practicing my 'game' of meeting women I would go to online websites to practice my 'game' because I was absolutely petrified of practicing on women in person. So I would practice on free online dating sites.

The first time I spoke to a girl online was on a website called There was this absolute glamor her username was naughtygirl01 (okay I know what you're saying but she was hot enough said) any way back to the story. So I used my opener lines which Savoy a guru PUA taught me this was how the conversation went.
Me: So pink shirts and white shoes on guys what do you think.

Her: LOL, Depends on the guy

Me: Well that doesn't help I need a woman's opinion and that's what you give me LOL

Her: Oh it's for you. I don't like them.

So then I went into small chat but all the time I was making her laugh and following Savoys teachings and all of a sudden she came out with.

Her: You're the first guy on this site who has made me laugh and asked me the most random and funny questions. Here's my YAHOO IM.

And that was it. Now the reason she gave me her details was because I was different, I didn't tell her she was beautiful or hot, I didn't ask her to go on webcam and have internet sex (believe it or not alot of guys do that) and I wasn't desperate, guys are too desperate online they chase women way too much that's bad online dating etiquette.

So here's your first online dating etiquette tip. Be polite and funny and learn some openers so you can talk to women and get their attention and not be like every other boring guy out there.

Online dating etiquette tip 2 - Don't put up with any B/S

Now I know I was talking about being respectful and funny with women and that's the most important part of online dating etiquette, but that doesn't mean you should cop crap from every woman you talk to.

Now by that I mean if she's insulting you in a harsh way for example if she says "You're such a clown but I like it". Well that's a good thing but if she says "You're the biggest loser I've met online" you can't cop that.

Now what I used to do stupidly and don't do this by the way haha. I used to get into a verbal war with the woman who insulted me, but that was so stupid and I was not acting like a man.

So my advice to you is if a woman is giving you disrespect in a bad way then just disconnect yourself from the conversation and move on, there's thousands of woman to talk to online.:)

Don't keep failing with women, you deserve to meet the woman of your dreams.

What's Up with Kissing

The subject of kissing, or actually the lack of it, has come up recently in conversations at parties. People were bemoaning not only the lack of kissing, but the increase in bad kissers in the past few years. This sent me on a journey to get comments from other people as to whether they had noticed anything, and the responses were interesting.

Marah Fellicce of Red Bank, New Jersey, said that she, too, has noticed "the world of kissing has significantly diminished. Kissing can be a wonderful and intimate experience, one that can in some cases, rival the main event." She says there is "an over sensualizing of the experience between any two people, and a built in desire to hurry up, but what can you expect in an age of instant popcorn?" Franklin Riga, who emphasized the fact that he was a straight male, agrees: "I think that perhaps kissing is becoming a lost art."

Romance novelist, Kathy Newburn says that kissing is, "totally sensory-all five, in fact. You will feel each other, hear, smell, see and taste each other, all factors that build desire and pleasure. So linger and enjoy, and ultimately practice mastering the art of the kiss."

The author of "Kissing and Cooking for Couples," Kim Reutzel, says she believes "kissing is a way to stay and get connected in more ways then one. The touch allows the physical juices to flow creating a soul connecting experience that can rekindle the fires within."

What Beverly Hills psychiatrist, relationship expert and author of the best selling book "Bad Boys: Why We Love Them, How to Live with Them and When to Leave Them," Dr. Carol Leiberman, has to say about the recent drop in kissing explains a lot. "The decline in kissing is in part due to our ever-growing 'to-do' lists and ever-diminishing time." She goes on to explain how kissing is actual "the most intimate part of a sexual encounter, since the true feelings of each partner are communicated to the other during this act. People can fake feelings during other aspects of sex, relying upon lust for erections or even orgasms. But they can't fake what they really feel towards their partner during a kiss. Men and women have become increasingly afraid of intimacy. They don't want to reveal their true feelings through a kiss because they are afraid of getting too close and then getting hurt."

Mary Jo Fay, author of several books on relationships, echoes the thought: "People ARE jumping to sex so fast that they are missing the amazing intimacy, anticipation, and heightened awareness that spending more time on kissing and not rushing the sex part can provide."

"For starters, it's very intimate and binds you in a way that sex does (you are exchanging body fluids if nothing else)," explains Alison Blackman, publisher and writer for AdviceSisters Publications. "Perhaps that is why prostitutes don't care to kiss, either. A romantic kiss can mean anything from 'I like you' to 'I adore you' to 'I just want hot sex and then I want to forget you.' It's an emotionally charged activity. And I think we spend so much time in front of our computer screens that physical connections of all types have diminished. Not a good thing, but a sign of our times."

But it's not just the lack of kissing. The other part of the problem is bad kissing. One woman who asked not to be identified because she doesn't want to hurt her husband's feelings said, "I have been married almost eight years and since the first month have hated kissing him. He sticks his tongue in my mouth and just wiggles it around like a worm having spasms."

"I'd make good kissing a deal breaker," says thrice married Jessie McCaskill. "I now know if someone can't give themselves up to the kiss, they aren't naturally sensual people." Dating expert Mary Jo Fay agrees, saying she believes "bad kissing can be enough to say NEXT to someone else without a moment's hesitation. Bad kissing usually leads me to believe that the sex won't be good either."

Marah Felliccee has even gone so far to teach classes in the art of kissing around the U.S. in New Orleans, Boston and soon in New York City. But she's not alone. As a matter of fact, you can even go so far as to get a certificate in kissing from Sexologist and Founder of Loveology University, Dr. Ava Cadell, who says she has "made it a priority to educate people on the lost art of kissing with a certified course." There is even a whole web site ( dedicated to teach people how to be better kissers and the various methods to do just that. "We all love it...but some of us just don't know that we love it till we're taught!" says Portland, Oregon resident Don Clarkson.

Really, the easiest way to improve is to ask someone who really is a good kisser to teach it to you. And think about how much fun that can be.

Perhaps all is not lost. Maybe instead of being a driving force in the front seat of human sexuality, it has moved to a place in the backseat. And conceivably it has not lost its appeal so much because of the way people think about sex. Kissing went from the hand, to the mouth and now to the genitals. It wasn't so very long ago that oral sex was seen as very intimate. Now it's just another way of showing affection, much as kissing was years ago.

But Ann Keeler Evans, the Marriage Examiner columnist for the "Philadelphia Examiner" doesn't really believe that kissing has lost its place in intimacy. She has a very high regard for it when she stated in one of her recent columns that "kissing is an art form. It is not a prelude to any thing; it is the culmination. It is not an appetizer, but dessert! It is the chocolate souffl of desserts. It is the fine wine savored not only with food but also alone."

Kissing will never really go out of style. Teenagers on dates are a good example of that. But as some of the people interviewed for this article stated, couples who have been together for a while seem to lose interest. Ki Mirra of Burlington, Vermont put it that people "really relish the closeness that kissing encourages."

And certainly for many people, kissing a truly unspoken form of communication. Architect, Christine Leonard, who has to deal with couples a lot in her business, says she sees a lot of hello/goodbye kissing between these couples and feels she can usually "see true love in a kiss."

Hope does spring eternal. For some kissing is sometimes a replacement for more intimate encounters. But for most people it is not something they will ever choose to give up. Just as a good painter wants to always get better, practice the art as long as it takes to be a master artist.

Ace McKay, author of the "The Marriage Playbook" says she believes that every person needs to become a leader "in setting the trend for kissing's BIG comeback" by being willing to show affection for the person you most care for, even if it is in public. In other words, set the example by being the example.

How To Kiss Good Tips - Free Kissing Advice From The Art Of Kissing

While researching the topic of "how to kiss good" I came across a book by Hugh Morris call The Art of Kissing. I thought that was a pretty grandiose title for such a simple act of pressing your lips together with another person. Just about everyone knows the mechanics of kissing. Toddlers. Children. Old and young people alike. Doesn't matter whether you're short or tall, skinny or heavy. We all know how to kiss. It's natural, right? Is knowing how to kiss good really an art form?

At first I was a little doubtful about the whole kissing as an art thing. However, my curiosity got the best of me and I began to think if I might learn just a little something to help improve my kissing technique. It couldn't hurt, I thought. And my wife might get a kick out of it...

I couldn't help but wonder if i might learn the deep, dark kissing secrets of the Cassanovas? My lips began to twitch a little at just the thought of me becoming a star kissing athlete. Do I hear some sexy music in the background now? Yes, it's Barry White singing backup while my super lips are getting primed for action.

So when was this fantastic kissing how to book written, I pondered as I looked for a publication date. Yii-yii! 1936? Gee, didn't they still have wooden teeth back then? What am I going to learn about kissing good from a book this ancient?

In reality, the techniques revealed in the Art of Kissing way back in 1936 are still very applicabletoday. The reasonfor thisis the book doesn't just go over kissing techniques and kissing definitions. I'd say about 50% of the subtopics from the book go over subjects like kissing preparation and seduction techniques as well.

While much of the "how to" kissing information is timeless, there are a few sections that may not be considered politically correct by today's standards. Truth be told, the chapter on relationships could actually be a turn-off for many people.

Here is one example: According to the author, the man needs to be taller than the woman in order to have proper kissing. The author even goes so far as to state that if the roles were reversed -- if the woman were actually taller than the man -- then the end result would be "disappointing." That doesn't prove to win any favors from me given that I'm 5"6'.

Clearly the views in 1936 were more openly biased when it came to the roles of men and women in relationships. Guys needed to be dominant, aggressive, and physically taller for a relationship to work - plain and simple. No room for equality and empowering women here, Dr. Phil! Although I do notice Dr. Phil is actually much taller than his wife...

A strangely biased section in the book is called How To Approach A Girl. In that section the author tells you how to use the arm part of the sofa as a kind of blocking aid that allows you to trap your woman. Once there, feel free to try and kiss her. And if she refuses? Oh, just ignore her.

Today you can get arrested for doing this!

To be fair, the author does describe how a girl can signal a man that she does not want to be kissed..

According to the author, the magic clue that a woman would prefer not to be kissed is if she cries out and scratches the man's face!

I guess a nice face scratching would certainly be a good signal that the girl doesn't want a kiss, huh guys?

Other sections in the book were quite interesting, especially the parts covering the different types of kissing. A few examples are the Vacuum Kiss, the Surprise Kiss, and everyone's favorite -- the French Kiss.

Overall I think the Art of Kissing was quite informative, especially by putting into context that the "how to kiss good" part a relationship comes at the end of a bigger process of seduction. If you downplay or ignore the advice that deals with too must male testosterone then you should do well by today's kissing standards.

Tuesday, October 18, 2011

An Unbiased Review Of Michelle Penneys Kissing 101 - Read This First

An Unbiased Review Of Michelle Penneys Kissing 101 - READ THIS FIRST

Frank Review of Kissing 101

Kissing 101 is your complete guide to kissing tips and techniques. Kissing 101 a fantastic program on kissing written by Michelle Penney talks about the most pleasurable thing known to man (and to woman of course) kissing. For a woman especially kissing is the most intimate form of expression of love, more precious than sex. There are different techniques and types of kissing which are laid bare in Kissing 101. The book suits everyone be it a first time kisser, a person who is apprehensive about doing it right, a person who is actually doing it right-Kissing 101 has certain things which Michelle naughtily calls "insider secrets" which every lover can benefit from.

Usually books on kissing and making love are more preachy and beating around the bush(no pun intended!) then zeroing on to the point. Thankfully Kissing 101 does not head the vague but lip locks to the point. There is more substance here, more informative and practicably feasible content. For those who thinking kissing is not such a big deal; let me tell you that kissing is like a key which can open the treasure box. So there is no way you can undermine the most pleasurable act of love. And if you can be the best at kissing, there is nothing like it.

Kissing 101 gives you information on how to build the perfect setting for a kiss, how to mentally seduce or charm a girl/boy with your charisma. Kissing 101 shows that a pleasurable kiss can be enhanced by the right scenario, the right mood and the right chemistry that you create with a person. Additionally Kissing 101 has 80 full color illustrations which show how to kiss your girl step by step in the most appealing manner. For the price of $19.95, the book is quite a steal. In the rare case, which I doubt, the book does not live up to your expectations, you can return the book anytime within 56 days days from the time you buy the book and the money will be refunded, no questions asked.. In addition, there are four bonuses given absolutely free along with Kissing 101: how to overcome shyness while dating, how to be an extraordinarily good kisser, an audio course on how to be a better you and a personal email consultation where Michelle Penney will answer you on all your relationship and dating problesm.

So far, we talked about the good points of Kissing 101. But does kissing 101 suck at times? Is Kissing 101 bad? Are there any glitches? The only thing which is debatable about Kissing 101 is that it is a book meant to be just what it is: a book on kissing. Call it the kissing bible or the kissing encyclopedia or a kissing self-help, Kissing 101 stays within the limits of how to create the right chemistry with a person to kiss him/ her, how to sweep them off their feet with your kisses and how to turn on the sizzle with your lips. So if you are looking for a three course menu on sex, kissing 101 is not for you. But if you are looking for the key to the treasure, then kissing 101 is worth its weight in gold. Remember if you have the key, the treasure is yours!


Kissing Techniques That Seem Natural

You have seen kissing in the movies. It looks romantic, passionate, and natural. But, in real life, it never seems to come off exactly like it looks in the movies. But you can develop your kissing skills even to the level of it becoming almost and art form. Experience and practice is what it takes to improve your kissing skills. There are several kissing techniques to help learn to be a good kisser.

Many people believe that they can tell if a person is 'the one' just by a kiss. Kissing is an important aspect of any relationship. If you want to have a good physical relationship with someone, it always begins with a kiss.

A kiss can be an expression of friendship, compassion, or passion. You can convey how you feel about someone with how you kiss them.

So how can you develop your kissing skills?

Being comfortable kissing first begins by being comfortable with yourself. You should be sure that you are presenting as attractive appearance as you can. Your lips should be supple and soft. Lip gloss or balm used everyday can help to keep your lips soft and enticing.

Your breath should be fresh. If you smoke or just dined on a meal with garlic or spicy foods you might want to be sure that you have gum or mints on hand. In fact, you should always have mints handy.

When you start to kiss someone be sure to pay attention to his signals. Make sure they are at ease and comfortable. Do not get so involved in kissing that you do not pay attention to the signals your kissing partner is giving to you. Confidence is very important to kissing effectively. Be relaxed and go with the mood.

There are many types of kisses. Most people know what a French kiss is. But do you know the Butterfly kiss? The Cheek Kiss? Earlobe Kiss? Eye kiss? All these kisses are appropriate at different times and can create a different element of sensuality.

The butterfly kiss is where you flutter your eyelashes quickly in order for your partner to feel them. Cheek and forehead kisses are kisses between friends. A cheek kiss is appropriate for a first date. Kissing on the earlobes and involves sucking and sipping on the earlobe of your kissing partner. When you rub noses with your partner that is an Eskimo kiss! Kissing the eyes of your partner is another tender kiss to offer.

Sucking on the fingers of your partner is another relaxing and stimulating kiss to perform. The kissing and/or sucking the toes of your partner are considered very erotic. The Melt Kiss or Freeze Kiss is where you place an ice cube in your mouth and pass it to your partner while kissing. You can even kiss up and down the body melting the ice as you kiss along.

There are many other variations of these kisses. This includes, placing fruit between your lips, kissing and licking your partner's hands, sucking on their lower lip, nibbling their neck.

You need to experiment trying different kisses with your partner to see which kisses you both enjoy. Mix it up. What turns you on today may bore you tomorrow.

Share a Bit of Your Soul When You Kiss the One You Love

Kissing is a way to connect with another person. A kiss can be intimate yet casual or romantic. There are kisses on the hand, cheek, and lips. Where, when, how and who you kiss determines the nature of your relationship with that person.

Kissing on the lips, between lovers is very romantic. A kiss on the lips exchanges your breath and even a little bit of your sole. You open yourself up to another person when you allow him or her to kiss you.

Over time, kissing may become old hat and boring. How are you able to keep the spark and electricity of that first kiss? The first kiss with someone is very special. Every kiss after that first kiss is just a shadow of that kiss. The real trick is knowing where you go from being a stranger to knowing someone well and how to keep kissing exciting. It is easy to learn how to kiss!

There are kissing techniques that you can use to help keep the spark of that first kiss exciting time after time. What can you do to make kissing more enjoyable than it naturally is? Practice kissing techniques!

Moist, soft lips make for an inviting, pleasurable kiss. Keeping a kiss light and playful is usually more enjoyable. Caress the lips and tongue. Do not bite or engage in a wrestling match. Pay attention to where your kissing partner is leading you. Try to match his or her style.

The best way to train your partner how you enjoy being kissed is to kiss them they way you wish to be kissed. You can use your tongue the way you want it to be used on your lips or in your mouth.

Your body is another aspect of kissing that does not always get a lot of attention. Don't be tense. Use your body to demonstrate the level of passion you are feeling.

Use your hands and arms. Run your fingers through his or her hair. Hold her waist, wrap your arms around him or her. Caress her gently. The shorter person in the kiss should tiptoe a little and hold their head back to make kissing more comfortable when standing. The taller person can spread his legs apart a bit to lessen the height distance as well.

French kissing gets a lot of attention. But it is just a kiss that begins like all other kisses. When you French kiss someone, you press your lips to theirs. Then, slowly you open your mouths and begin to gently explore with your tongues.

As important is having a soft, lubricated mouth is your head position in a kiss. Heads should be tilted to one side. Opposite sides, obviously, because you do not want to lean in only to bump noses with your kissing partner.

Eyes open or closed? That is a good question. Well you should do whatever feels comfortable for you. Most people close their eyes when they make contact. Sometimes it is pleasurable to make eye contact during a kiss and can build the intensity of a kiss.

Kissing someone is a cooperative effort, if you will. Intimacy can only be achieved on the mutual agreement between two people. The best thing to remember is to relax and enjoy kissing.

Monday, October 17, 2011

Your Online Dating Profile - Get It Right - The First Time!

Have you been trying to find a date with an online dating site but have had little luck in the online land of love? Well this could be because you have made vital mistakes when compiling your dating profile and I am going to tell you what those mistakes are. If you have an online dating profile it is important to avoid these mistakes if you are truly looking for love.

First things first! It is crucial that you use a picture of yourself. I know this should go without saying but unfortunately there are people out there that will use someone else's photo on their profile. This is not going to help you find love. If you start off lying to the other person they are not going to be too open to the idea of a second date.

I would be surprised if they even went through with the first one once they realized you lied about what you looked like. You also want to avoid using pictures of yourself when you were younger, thinner and buffer. If you plan on meeting someone online then be truthful about yourself. Put yourself in your date's shoes, how would you like it if you agreed to date someone you met online and their picture was taken ten years ago, I think you would be disappointed with the actual real life result.

Dating websites have a component many people do not consider when they join. Online dating chat rooms allow other members to see you on live video, and in real time, so don't bother wasting people's time by posting a picture of someone else on your profile in order to attract more attention. You are only setting yourself up for rejection. And besides, this kind of behaviour gives online dating a bad name.

Online dating can be a wonderful experience when people are honest. You should not want to meet someone that would not be attracted to a recent photo of you. If you can only get someone to go out with you because they think you look different then that person is not for you.

Another big mistake people make on their dating profile is saying mean and hateful things about race, gender, and ethnicity. You do not want to come across as a mean or hateful person. Even if you are simply trying to be funny do not put offensive remarks on your dating profile.

No one is attracted to a hateful person. You also want to avoid telling too much about yourself. It is important to be honest on your profile but do not over share. For instance rambling on about your last relationship or talking about your ex can turn people off quickly.

You also want to leave out any stories in which you are being violent, having sex, or getting arrested. You may find these stories amusing but most people will not. The worse mistake you can make on your dating profile is not being honest about yourself. Do not lie about your weight, height, age, gender, or income.

Do not put on your profile that you are six foot tall when you are only 5'6. When you meet someone they will realize that you are not six feet tall. If you are a construction worker do not put on your profile that you own a construction company. Be honest because if you meet someone having told all of these lies you will never find true love.

If you are seriously considering taking your love hunt online, visit our singles chat sites today and see what it's all about.

How to Make People Laugh - Online Dating Chat and Singles Tips

Girls and guys love funny people. Ever met a person at a party who appears to always have people wanting to sit near them and to be in their company? We all love a laugh and an easy going, laid back partner who doesn't put others down is just great at the dinner table. But what about when online dating? Is it enough simply to be funny? Its certainly a start...

Laughing and making other people laugh is a big asset in life. Laughing produces good hormones in the body that help people feel more positive, healthier and even tolerant of others. Even though naturally funny people exist, making someone laugh is a skill that can be taught.

Real life stories are funnier than made up ones.
Great comedians draw heavily on their actual life experiences, so the joke is on themselves rather than on other people, drawing focus on little details that may have appeared insignificant and showing other people an insight regarding the workings of their mind. As we can relate to the actual aspects of the story, the entire joke appears believable and the humor in it comes across genuine. Comedians who are well known for this type of comedy include Billy Connolly, arguably the funniest scot alive.

Repetition, saying the same thing several times can cause it to become humorous. Sounds unbelievable? Sometimes pushing a joke beyond the boundaries works.

Misdirection. A style many comedians apply is misdirection. This means they include a story that goes in a totally different direction to that that was expected. Groucho Marx would use this technique. The basis behind this is that when the listener knows what is going to occur then it won't be funny however by catching them by surprise, their mind can see the funny side. Chevy Chase often uses this tactic with his joke telling.

Escalation is another different technique to be humorous. This means that the story begins in a sensible, predictable way and then escalates into the very funny. You add more and more funny dialogue until the listener begins cracking up in laughter.

Understatement is when you make an important topic seem really trivial.

Reversal means moving the story around so that it refers to the incorrect noun - like "residents dangerous to local dogs"

The error many of us make when trying to be humorous is to try to be funny non stop. They end up sounding idiotic and embarrass themselves. The answer to humor is to inject it into a story. It is sometimes someone who is usually fairly straight, that comes across really funny when they throw in several random lines to a conversation or who then tell a really clever tale of their lives.

The main difference online is that you need to count on the content or context to display humor - sarcasm, unless you know the person does not work very well online.

Free Online Dating Site and Chat Rooms for Singles Australian Internet Dating

Michelle's Real Life Experience with Online Dating

Michelle's online dating story first become available for online publishing after she agreed to a candid interview with the owners of the dating site she was once a member of. With the written consent of Michelle we bring to you her real life stories about the people she met online and the details about her online dating liasons.

Michelle 29 years of age - St Kilda, VIC. "Firstly, I would like to start by letting others know that the use of online dating sites altered my life beyond any expectation. It would often amaze me to encounter most of my single girlfriends sit with their laptops most days chatting to men on-line that they had never laid eyes on before. The whole thing got me thinking and given that I split with Chris (my ex) just a few months prior I figured there was nothing stopping me from trying online dating, what did I have to lose."

"Attention was something that I had not had for along time so I was completely flattered when I wandered into the singles chat rooms and my chat request message box lit up like a Christmas tree. I had heard through friends that the women were popular on these sites and they were right".

"I too found myself instinctively logging in at the first available opportunity on a daily basis as my ego was loving the attention. There was never any need to initiate a conversation new opportunities presented on a daily basis."

"Although I had made lots of new online (fantasy) friends I did not agree to meet anyone for four weeks until it felt right and I was confident with what I was doing. I had heard a lot of stories about people's actual and real appearance differing from their online dating profile so when I agreed to go on a date with Steve, I checked out his Face Book page to verify his identity."

"My very first internet date took place at a local coffee shop in inner city Sydney. It was evident of a mutual attraction as we seemed to bond quickly. Because we had chatted on-line for respective weeks leading up to the date, there was an unspoken expectancy already reinforced."

"After coffee we moved onto the World Bar at Kings Cross then several hours later we went back to his house for a 'coffee' with the unspoken anticipation of something more. We sat around for an hour talking. Suddenly I noticed the sun coming up, I realized this was all a fantasy, I felt ashamed and embarrassed then abruptly left."

"In the cab ride home it dawned on me that I had been living in a fantasy world. In the following days I accepted that I was more focused with stroking my ego than I was finding someone special. I was going about the online dating thing the wrong way. I would say to people thinking of using online dating, forget about creating a false attraction caused by weeks of chatting before a real date, just go on lots of dates until the right man comes your way. Trying to assess real chemistry before a real date is a mistake."

"My advice to anyone looking to meet men or meet women online would be to try and not get swept up in the whole fantasy online world, just go on lots of dates and meet new people until the right person comes along."

"As a result of my new online dating strategy, and nine dates later, I met Matt and we are now engaged to be married."

A Freaky Ending to My Online Dating Story

So if you read my last post about free dating sites youll know that I am heading out to meet this girl I met on a free dating site and she looks oddly familiar.

Ok, so I get out to her city, and we meet up at a red robins, we have lunch and we are both just discussing how incredibly strange it is that we recognize each other without having any contact ever save for the contact in the free dating site.

We finish dinner and decide to go see a movie. After the movie we head back to her place, and because we snuck a few bottles of wine into the theatre, she suggests I stay over so I dont have to drive 8 hours after drinking. This is where the story gets funny. As we walk into her dark house, she guides me to the living room and sits me on the couch, she tells me shell be right back, I look over to her computer and see that the free dating site which we met on is on the monitor, guess she was gonna message me. Anyways, she flicks on the light as she walks out of the room and it hits me.

I see all the family photos on the walls and there in the slick gold frames I see photos of my parents, my aunts, my uncles this girl was somehow related to me! I jumped up and called her in, as she comes running in I point to the picture and cringe thats my mom.and my dad. She dropped her glass of water and in that brief moment of realization we both burst out laughing turns out I met a third cousin on a free dating site, I hadnt seen her since I was a kid, thats why I was able to recognize her, I used to play with her whenever our families would visit So, the moral of the story is, if your gonna use a free dating site or already are using a free dating site you might just want to do a background check on any people you meet while on a free dating site we are good friends now by the way, so not all was lost.

Sunday, October 16, 2011

A Weird Online Dating Story

I have a funny story about something interesting that happened to me while visiting a free dating site.

Yes, the story does have a point, and yes, there is a lesson to be learned from it.
I call this story, the beware of who youre talking to on free dating sites, yeah its a crappy title, but its a work in progress so cut me some slack.

Oh well, it all started about 4 months ago when I decided that for the first time ever, I would attempt to find love over the internet. Id never experienced this mystical feeling they call love, so I felt there was nothing to lose. I joined a free dating site, actually, two free dating sites, but I later dropped one after I discovered some hidden fees. Anyways, so Im surfing this free dating site, checking out all the features and of course, all of the beautiful women. When I come across this one girl who, who looks oddly familiar. I cant quite put my finger on who she was, but I know I had seen her face before. Turns out she was born and raised about 8 hours from me so the likelihood of us ever meeting was very slim. Well, on with the story now, so I message this girl who I am immediately infatuated with, I mean shes really really cute, so I message her via free dating site and await her reply. About two days later, after Id almost completely forgotten her, I get a message stating oh my god, you look familiar, do I know you? WEIRD right?

I mentioned nothing about recognizing her in my message so this was just freaky. Oh well. So we chatted it up on the free dating site quite a bit, probably for a month or two before we actually decided that I would head out there to meet her. Shoot, Im out of words, look for part. 2.

This is My Funny Little Free Online Dating Story

I met my husband Mark through free online dating. You could call it is coincidence, but the two of us had vaguely known each other during our senior high years.

The night after prom during our senior year, the two of us were partying at a friends place. My friend; Victor, was chosen as the prom king and we decided celebrating his crowning. Victor was seeing my best friend Linda, they made a great couple. Though I had my share of high school romances, I wasnt involved in a relationship at the time.

Anyways, coming back to the party, we were all enjoying ourselves celebrating when Victor emerged from the crowd with a dashing, tall, well-built young man who he introduced as his good friend Mark. Marks presence created a buzz in the party and the other girls could simply not keep their eyes off of him.

I dont know if Mark was a shy person or if he just didnt like me, but he hardly talked with me aside from some courteous chit-chat. Mark looked uncomfortable in the crowd so I thought I should ask him for a dance, he quickly responded with a sharp No!

I was pretty shocked with his response, and told him I was just hoping to help him relax and enjoy the party. I felt pretty embarrassed and left soon after.

Fast-forwarding about 7 years now, I decided to join a free online dating community, I met some very interesting people. I found that free online dating was a lot of fun.

One day, after being a free online dating member for a few months, I got a message from Mark. I liked his profile; he was a good looking, tall, well-built figure, and was working as a marketing consultant in a reputable firm. So I decided what harm could come from one date.

We started chatting the following night on the free online dating site. Our relationship was great, we shared a lot in common, we grew up relatively close to each other, shared friends, went to the same parties, but we hadnt yet realized exactly who we were talking to. The chatting on our free online dating site brought us very close in a short period of time.

So, one day while we were on free online dating, I told Mark about this pompous guy I met during my final year prom night party. Casually Mark asked me where I did my schooling and when I told him, he couldnt stop laughing.

I cant even begin to tell you my reaction after Mark explained to me that he was the pompous guy I had met that night! Whenever we chatted on our free online dating site, we would laugh about it all over again.

Mark and I dated for two years on the free online dating site before tying knot,

Im grateful that free online dating was able to re-unite me with the love of my life.

Craziest Online Dating Stories

There is no denying as the revolution of internet and dating sites has compelled hundreds of thousands of people to find their match online. You do not have to go here and there to find out your match, because there are in fact plenty of online dating websites made available for you, wherein you will easily be able to discover a reliable partner online. More importantly, these online dating websites have discovered many astonishing, intriguing, funny and craziest online dating stories. Some of the craziest online dating stories are mentioned below:

Sara Pauline and Redcliff Brown

Both of them met with each other on the success match online three months ago. Pauline is 27 years old girl, while Brown is 29 years old guy. One of the most wonderful things about Sara is her jokes. On the other hand, Brown is also a very funny person. Once, Sara sent an instant message to Brown via an unknown ID. In this email, she did express her exciting and natural feelings of love, obsession and romanticism about Brown and more importantly, Brown was really shocked by reading this email from an unknown ID. When Brown traced the lady, it was found as Sara. Both of them were laughing on that incident. Hence, this was the funniest and craziest online dating story of Sara and Brown.

Roger Muller and Julia Robertson

Roger and Julia began their relationships via perfect match online. Once, Roger put an instant inquiry to Julia's account from his email ID. As a result, Julia gave her instant response. Who are you? May I know about you Roger? Yes, what could I do for you? In response, Roger proposed Julia straight forwardly by saying that you are the spirit of love and romance, so please don't overlook my offer. I really admired your pictures, as you were looking rock over there. Consequently, Julia took her time and sent him an instant message via her email ID. Both of them made a date in a King's restaurant in California. Their relationships got stronger and stronger with the passage of time. All of a sudden, Julia proposed Roger for matrimony. Roger gave a shocking response to Julia by saying that sorry mate I cannot make marriage with you, as I am already a married person. Julia had not a single idea about Roger's marriage at all and she was completely shocked by hearing this from Roger. As a result, they were willing to be friends with each other and would never disrupt their loving relationships. This was one of the craziest online dating stories I have ever seen in my life span.

Wednesday, October 5, 2011

Online Dating Safety: Are You Falling In Love With a Scammer?

For the online dating industry life is good right about now. According to Jupiter Research, revenue generated now stands at over 500 million. Keep in mind this represents numbers compiled for 2006. Internet dating took a giant leap forward last year by being featured and talked about in quite a number of national and local media outlets so you can pretty much figure they will easily surpass that mark for 2007-2008.

However the online dating industry is not the only one making a fortune. If there is one thing you can be sure, it is that there will always be people who try to game the system. Say hello to the scammers.

No question online or off it is important to be on your guard but with internet dating being on guard takes on an added urgency. One of the major benefits of online hookups is also one of its most devastating drawbacks. The power of being anonymous has many people running wild but it has become an incredible tool for online scammers.

This puts you in a tough position. You meet someone online and everything feels so right. Time flies when you two are chatting and you feel it will not be long before the first meeting.

And it will be a first meeting alright. The meeting of your money and their bank account. The whole key with these scams is to play so heavily on your emotions that giving the scammer money almost seemed like your idea.

Like anything in life there are no one hundred percent guarantees but there are some things you can watch out for.

1. Goodbye Contact System You two have been communicating pretty regularly with no problems thanks to the dating service you both have signed up for. Now however, they want to bypass that and start communicating with you directly via email; specifically your primary address. Why? Do not be afraid to ask that question. Tell them you want to keep things as they are and gauge their reaction? Do they get angry and impatient about it? If so watch out.

2. The Too Good to Be True Photo
Your online photo shows you at your best but their photo looks like the step out of a high caliber fashion magazine. You do a double take and think to yourself that you have struck gold. Chances are you haven't.

Many scammers are experts are finding a photograph online and cropping it until it fits their profile. The whole point is to get your hormones racing way out in front of your reasoning capabilities as well as your instinct. When you see one of these, take a step back and do some more investigating.

3. They Love You. Really?
Regardless of how much time has passed they start laying it on thick. They love you and cannot live without you. Where did this come from? You admit the conversations have been terrific but keep in mind you still have not met this person. Whether scammer or not, anyone professing their unrequited love should have your instincts ringing like a ten alarm fire bell.

4. The Hard Luck Story.
They would sure love to meet you but wouldn't you know it they just do not have the transportation or the funds. In Nigeria (currently the scam capitol of the internet) the hard luck story has been raised to an art form.

They are stranded in a hotel by an angry desk clerk who has confiscated their airline ticket. He is holding it as payment since your online dating partner's belongings were stolen and their whole family was wiped out in a single engine plane which crashed on the runway as they were on their way to the bank to deposit your partner's inheritance check. Get the idea?

5. Money Time
You've kept your wits about you for the most part but now the gloves are off. They want money and they want it now. The communique get more desperate and are now coming faster than the hard luck stories. In fact they start giving you specific instructions about transferring money.

You are not online to be anyone's personal atm machine. If you feel the need to continue the communication let them know in no uncertain terms you will not provide money for anything. If they are a scammer that will probably end the "romance" right there. If they persist end all communication and if possible contact the proper authorities.

There are many people who are genuine and really do want to meet you online; for that reason do not be afraid to give some of the online dating services a chance. But we live in a world where many others driven solely by greed are out to commit cyber pick pocketing. Just remember the five tips listed above, keep your emotions in check and your instincts on high alert.

Nigerian "419" Scam Affects Online Dating. Man in Canada gets Last Laugh

There are very few people left in the modern world who have not opened an enticing email claiming that they have won an international lottery or offering a percentage of a large amount of escrow capital. Often, these types of dishonest solicitations originate in Nigeria where scamming Westerners is a huge industry. The variety of ways in which such scams are perpetrated is seemingly endless, and it was interesting and saddening to hear a story of one such scam the started as a man took his first step into online dating in Canada.

A recently divorced individual from Ontario was lonely one night, and he decided to see what all the commotion surrounding internet dating in Canada was all about. He was lonely and looking for a bit of companionship to get him through the long and lonely winter. After spending hours going through all the big online dating companies, he finally picked one and paid his money to join. It did not take long before he got an encouraging message from a cute lady who claimed to live several hundred miles away. The man was excited to get any attention, but he found it strange that a fellow Canadian would have such poor grammar and English skills. It was soon forgotten when his online friend's son got into a terrible accident overseas.

Many of us are very sympathetic, but the man in our story was well-versed in all the ways that people try to steal money from others. Through some research and a few pointed questions, he was able to find out that his new acquaintance was actually logging on to a computer in Lagos, Nigeria. Understanding that country's reputation for scams, he decided to turn the tables on this lady, and he acted like he was going to send her money. It took several weeks before the perpetrator realized she was the one getting scammed, and in the process she wasted countless hours and real money on internet fees.

Fortunately, this story does have a happy ending. Although our protagonist was initially disillusioned with online dating in Canada, he got back on the horse and found the free dating website While everything on this site is at no cost to members, he was especially fond of the video-chat function - the website he was almost scammed on did not have this option. Now, before he even starts talking seriously with anyone, he hits them up on video-chat to make sure they are who they claim they are. This is a great way to stay protected if one is online dating in Canada.

Of course, most people who are dating online in Canada are legitimate singles looking for love. KissCafe is a community of individuals who look after each other, and it is clean of nefarious practices like deception and scamming. In general, dating in Canada is safe and fun, but people must always be aware of who they are dealing with on the internet.