Different online dating sites ask you for different information. It is important that no matter what information you put in your profile, that it be honest. If you're fifty don't say in your profile that you're forty. Or even worse, say that you're fifty when you're really seventy and never mention it to your date until you meet. Do you honestly think that your date won't figure this out? I speak from personal experience on this one.
What I'm trying to say is this: you are attempting to start a new relationship. A relationship started on lies has a very poor foundation. If you're not even trustworthy in your profile, where else are you not trustworthy?
Above and beyond the honesty aspect of online dating profiles, you need to sell yourself. Put a good picture on your profile that really looks like you. Don't post a picture that's thirty years old. Post other pictures to give your prospective date a real idea of what you're like. You holding a cute puppy may be a little hackneyed but everybody likes people who like cute puppies!
Then there's the headline. Many of the sites like you to come up with a short headline to introduce your profile. Try to come up with something smart that's really YOU. After all, it's what's going to catch the eye of other online daters first well, maybe after the photo. If you're a fairly traditional "girl next door" type, why headline yourself as HotSexyBlonde? You will get emails for sure. But are they the kind of emails and people that you're looking for?
Don't choose a negative headline. "I'm Not Much to Look At" is not going to draw in dates unless other online daters perceive that headline as funny. Try to be original, positive and sound like you're fun. Because you are, right? If you look through some dating sites you'll see what I mean. Some headlines draw you right in while others turn you right off.
Now to the most important part write the kind of essay that makes someone else want to meet you. If you're not a great writer get somebody else to do it for you.
First of all, always keep in mind that you're writing for an audience. If your essay exhibits good spelling and grammar it's going to make a better impression than one that doesn't. Like your headline, make it upbeat! Nobody wants to date a whiner. And don't brag. You'll sound like a pompousumjerk, and nobody wants to date one of those either. That doesn't mean you can't say anything nice about yourself either. Be positive but not overboard.
And remember, if you can talk it, you can write it. So think about what you'd like someone to know about you and then think about what you'd like to know about that person and then write it. Write as if you're talking directly to the person who's reading your profile.
Don't forget, there are 37 million other daters online right now! Go for it! What have you got to lose?
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